To Resist the Plan of Existence is Struggle
My experience and definition of struggle and how I make peace with it
My friend told me that people with so-and-so planet in their astro-house face more struggles in life. I was left wondering. I thought, maybe. But then what’s struggle according to them might be a cakewalk for me and vice versa.
We fret about pretty insignificant and rubbish things every so often. And then we call it struggle!
Very strange, isn’t it?
For eg. many people say I am struggling to get a promotion or pay hike. Or I am struggling to get married. Or get laid. A while ago, even I would say ‘why can’t I get what I want’ or ‘why is it so difficult to get what I deserve’.
What we call struggle is when things don’t go as per our plans. When we are impatient to fulfil our dreams. Then I wondered what would be my definition of struggle. So, the following thought came to mind:
That existence has a plan for me. It’s impossible to understand it in advance. When it’s happening to us, we are just at our wits ends as to why THIS is happening to me! Fast-forward a few years and looking back it starts to make sense. Nonetheless, we resist existence’s plan when it’s manifesting through us. This is what we call struggle.
When I resist existence’s plan, when I feel existence is trying to stop my growth — I quiver.
Don’t you think that’s struggle?
But who am I to know what leads to growth and what will result to stagnation? How can I be so sure in advance?
So, isn’t it better to just give our best and leave the results to existence?
The difference then is that we still put our best foot forward but we don’t fret over what comes next. Where the journey will lead us.
Give your best,
Let existence,
take care of the rest.
But it’s one thing to not get what you want and another is to be presented with two or more options.
Should I choose promotion in the same company or a better pay in another. Where to put my foot?
Choosing one and not the other will drastically change the course of rest of our lives.
Then we are left wondering what the hell to do now! How do I decide what will make me happy? What will keep me happy?
When I am in such a position that I have four directions to walk toward — yes, right now I am dealing with not just two or three options but four. It’s a hurricane up in the brain.
How do I select?
I could not find a good solution so I just shot arrows in every direction.
And then I am leaving it unto existence to show me a light/sign. I will look at the stars, the moon, and the planets and ask them what’s their master plan.
This requires silence. Within and without.
I know I will get a calling from inside. A door will get opened. Maybe the one I do not expect or wish. Then I will let go of my plans and just walk through that door chosen for me.
Can you think of any better solutions? What do you do when you are in such a situation?
What is your definition of struggle?
Really thoughtful piece here. The reframe of struggle as resistance to existnce's plan is something I hadn't quite put into words before. I've noticed when I'm stuck between options like you describe, the mental spinning usually means I'm trying too hard to control an outcome that hasn't revealed itself yet. Shooting arrows in all directions and watching for signs might sound passive but it's actually pretty active in terms of staying present to what unfolds.